The Effects Of Not Being In Control

If we take the time to think about what seems to be within our control, we may list things like our own behavior, what we eat, our schedule, spending time in the Word and in prayer, how much we sleep, how we take care of ourselves, etc. On the other hand, in thinking about what is out of our control we could list circumstances like the loss of a loved one, the diagnosis of a mental illness or serious physical illness, other peoples' behavior, aging, etc. In all of these things, we need to consider how we are affected when we aren't able to be in control of a situation. We may become anxious and worry about the situation or events that are not going our way. There may be hurt and disappointment. Not being in control produces fear, frustration and anger which can sometimes lead to bitterness and resentment because others are not cooperating with our desires.

Physically we might develop somatic illnesses such as headaches, backaches, stomachaches, heart palpitations and bowel problems to name a few.

Wrapped up in the concept of not feeling like we are in control is the whole issue of trust! Can we trust that God will see us through a situation that is out of our control? Do we trust others with responsibilities and following through on plans?

Proverbs 3: 5-8says:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

Questions to think about: What keeps us from making changes and how can we respond to change especially knowing things are out of our control?